While your focus has been on other people in your life lately, thinking completely about your current relationships isn’t going to be possible. But that is a good thing. It’s time to get yourself refocused on who you are as an individual. You may be running the risk of losing yourself in the crowd. Ask yourself honestly if you’re working so hard on friendships and relationships with other people to avoid working hard on yourself.

You know what you don’t want in a relationship. Good! Now figure out what it is you need to do next to get the ball rolling in the right direction and then take the steps to do that.

Don’t fret if a little monster of boredom rears its ugly head in your relationship. There are always new experiences waiting to be discovered. Explore a new activity together.

Don’t worry if it feels like you’re being left in the dust. You don’t have to wonder if you’re keeping up with others, and besides, there’s plenty of value in that dust anyway. Keep your eyes open when you hang your head and you just may see something shiny. For once, looks are not deceiving.