Big changes look easy in the movies. The frumpy librarian lets down her hair and is a femme fatale, or maybe underneath that boring trench coat is a superhero’s costume. In real life, of course, monumental movement only happens when you commit to making small changes first. If you want to leap tall buildings in a single bound (metaphorically speaking), it might not happen right away, but with enough persistence, it can happen eventually.

Your caring nature leaves you feeling more like a concerned parent than a casual friend. Still, you need to take a break from solving everyone else’s problems and put yourself (and your love life) first for a change.

If you tend to the details of your relationship, you’ll find that they are easier to tweak to create more satisfying results. You might even be able to get your partner to lend a hand with the small stuff!

You may feel like you’re in a dream, caught on stage without your clothes on. Your portfolio may not be galloping ahead, but that’s nothing you have to share with the neighbors. Keep the curtains shut, in your waking life at least.