The people you’ll be dealing with today are a lot more grounded than you are right now, which could make you uncomfortable at first. It’s tough to work with people who don’t see things the way you see them. But if you just relax, you will slowly become much more grounded yourself. Reach out to the people who are always cool, calm, and collected and they’ll reach right back. They can teach you how to see things as they really are, minus all the drama.

Instead of simply trying to push your romantic agenda, get to know people better. They need to be pretty awesome to fit into your plans, so set schematics aside while you look more closely.

Sometimes it’s hard to make the best out of a situation. One thing that will help is to be honest — not negative or whiny, but honest — about how you both got into this and what your options are for changing it.

Remember that old offer of lunch or the email asking about friends and family? It’s a good time to follow through with just that type of dropped connection. You never know when you’ll charm exactly the right person.