If you’re not in the mood to hit the town and whoop it up, then you’re not going to be much fun doing it, are you? This is the logic you should use when you tell your friends that they should count you out of the latest big social scheme. You’re feeling more introspective right now, and the idea of going out and making small talk with strangers isn’t striking you as the recipe for a good time. You need to do what you want, not what they want you to do.

Whether you’re dealing with a fear of failure or a fear of success doesn’t matter. The consequences are the same. Don’t sabotage your progress with lots of negative self-talk and self-destruction. If you want someone or something, go for it. You’ll talk yourself out of it if you overthink it.

Your partner’s schedule may mean changing the plans you had for tonight. Instead of getting upset, make a new plan. Being willing to adapt to the situation will make things better for both of you.

You can hardly keep yourself from crying on the shoulder of anyone you come across today, be they friends or mere acquaintances. Even your closest friends don’t necessarily want to hear your story of financial woe today. Pick and choose who you share with. Not everyone is feeling compassionate.