If you want more attention from a boss, crush, or even your current partner, stop asking for it. Back up, go off on your own, and create a little mystery around yourself. Their curiosity will inevitably get the better of them, and before you know it they’ll be approaching you for some alone time. It might take longer than you’d like for this to happen, but so what? You’ll be off doing your own thing, and this kind of independence will feel good.

Round up some friends and head out to someplace new. The destination isn’t important as long as you can hang out for a while. Find out where the locals go for fun and get set to flirt with a whole new crowd.

You and your partner share a passion for learning. Have fun today exploring one of your many interests together and then engaging in a lively discussion. Don’t be surprised if some sparks fly (in a good way)!

Your philosophy has worked for you so far, but that doesn’t mean you should adhere to it rigidly. Being flexible even a tiny bit will actually get you even further. Find a different kind of energy to use in your endeavors. The changes will be subtle — but noticeable almost immediately.